When Tom and I got married, I moved to his small town a mere 30 miles North of where I was living. I can’t tell you how many times in the first three years of our marriage I called my mom and said I’m never going to fit in here. While I had only moved 30 mile, it felt like I had moved to the other end of the earth.
I quickly found out that one of the first questions people asked was “ so where do you go to church?” Not only was it assumed that everyone in town went to church, it was also assumed that you would socialize with those from your church. In many ways it felt like our church was our identity. To say I moved to the Bible belt might be an understatement.
Where I came from your identity was often tied to where you worked. Questions like “So tell, me about yourself, where do you work? What do you do?” seemed like natural first questions. Church was on the list, but it was much further down and people didn’t talk with acronyms or in church-ese language that I didn’t understand. In many respects church was private and not something that was talked about openly. Having grown up Catholic and moving to a town that I wasn’t sure even had a Catholic church, I had a lot of adjusting to do.
While I had grown up in church my entire life and knew and love Jesus from an early age, I couldn’t help but feel like an outsider in my new surroundings. I didn’t talk the talk, or even know what walking their walk looked like. While I saw many things that made me desire their love for Jesus, it took me quite a while to figure out what fitting in might look like. If I’m honest, in many ways I still feel a bit like an outsider.
What I have come to realize in the last 15 years, is that it’s not about fitting in, it’s about finding yourself along the journey. I certainly have gotten better at “speaking the language” but more importantly, I have discovered that what my relationship with God looks like is what really matters. AND IT’S OK if it looks a bit different than those around me.
When I first met Michelle DeRusha I was quickly smitten by her unique personality. When she told me about her new memoir and how it talked about her struggle with hard questions of spirituality, I knew I had to read it. Not only is it laugh out loud funny, but it’s authenticity in talking about hard honest spiritual questions and her journey to finding answers made me realize I’m not the only one who has struggled with some of these questions. In many respects I think we all have at some point.
I’m so excited today to introduce you to Michelle and her new book Spiritual Misfit, which releases today. As you can tell by the title. It was named after me. LOL – only kidding. I promise you, you’re going to want to get a hold of a copy. The good news is I’m giving away a copy of my blog today.
Here’s how to enter the giveaway:
1. Leave a comment on today’s post telling me when you most feel like a spiritual misfit.
2. Tomorrow morning a random winner will be drawn to receive a complimentary book.
3. To be entered again subscribe via e-mail to my blog. All new subscribers will be entered as well.
4. Stop by tomorrow when I announce our winner!!